Today, almost everyone is in possession of a smartphone. And smartphones are equipped with cameras that would then take photos that one can post to the social media trifecta: Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Your wedding day and these various social media platforms may be a great mix, or it may run counter to each other. Social media during your wedding day could either be your bane or boon, and it all depends on how you handle the usage of such platforms.
Though the waters of social media usage in weddings are unchartered, that does not necessarily connote that there are no certain simple guidelines one must adhere to. Most guests would make the erroneous assumption that social media is a welcome or even an invited wedding guest, but some bride and grooms would think otherwise. Common courtesy would dictate that you at least be aware of the bride and groom’s wishes when it comes to posting to social media otherwise you would come across as an inconsiderate guest. And if you plan on getting invited to more weddings soon, you might as well make yourself sharp enough to be at least mindful of what basic social media etiquette is required during weddings.
To assist you, here are some of the most basic social media etiquette tips to prepare you for that wedding day:
When it comes to immediately family and closest friends, engagement announcements should be made in person
Although, announcing engagements via save the date posts and prenup photos have become the modern norm and custom, it would be most respectful to your mom and dad, siblings and closest friends to know about your engagement personally. Letting them know over a Facebook post would not only be discourteous and impolite on your part, but it would also make them seem like detached relations who are merely trying to pry into your life. If announcing the happy news is not possible in person, at least take some time to let them know on the phone.
Carefully sift through wedding details to post. Leave the tedious ones offline
Unless you have invited all of your five hundred or so friends in Facebook, it is best to keep some of the more tedious details of the wedding to yourself. Feelings may potentially get hurt and no matter how consumed you are with anticipation and excitement, no one wants to see their news feeds littered and bombarded with various photo-ops and small details regarding your wedding (No one needs to hear how fond you are of your wedding caterer). Consider keeping things offline to keep the element of surprise. It will give your wedding day more appeal if you kept some things private and sprang them on only at the big day.
Under no circumstance should you post a photo of your bridal gown
Even sneak previews should be avoided at all cost. There are just traditions no matter how archaic remain relevant and are by no means obsolete. This is one of them besides; it is best to keep your groom at the edge of his seat and see you in your gown only when he lays his eyes on you during the ceremony. Letting him wait until the ceremony to see you in the gown will keep the wow factor in check. Additionally, it can make for poignant photos once his expression is captured seeing you in the wedding gown for the very first time.
Consider letting people know your social media wishes beforehand
Expecting every single one of your guests to refrain from posting anything to any social media platform is unrealistic (unless you disallow phones at the ceremony that is impractical by itself). But should you vocalize your wishes clear beforehand, your guests will respect you enough not to take and post any photos to social media before you and your groom are ready. Just make sure that you and your groom have agreed in advance regarding how much or how little you want of your ceremony to be posted online.
Send thank you notes instead of posting a big “Thank You” status on your social media
When someone has gone out of their way to attend your wedding and leave you with a wedding gift, it is not customary to thank them with a note but courteous and polite as well. Simply plastering a status on Facebook and having the appropriate people tagged with a thank you status is not only tacky, but it makes you seem inconsiderate as well. After wrapping up your honeymoon, get to working on those thank you notes and make your guests feel like their presence was appreciated and welcome.
Social media on your wedding day can either be your blessing or your curse, it all depends on how you handle it or what your perspective on social media posting during your big day is. What is imperative is, that as a bride, you have your wishes known beforehand. Though, you must accept that this does not necessarily mean a hundred percent guarantee that no posts will make it to social media, but at least your guests are reminded of your wishes. Now, that we have walked you through some of the most basic social media etiquettes for weddings, try practicing them at your next wedding event.