You have an impending big day to attend, one in which you are the star.
You have everything planned and prepared–from the wedding catering service down to the minute details of the floral arrangement. With the wedding logistics planned like the back of your hand, you are quite sure that you have nothing left to worry about.
You have strategically planned where to seat your guests and relayed to your mother and the bridesmaids that should there be gifts, they have a designated place of honor at the reception area. Additionally, you conveyed your preference to have your gifts come from the wedding registry naturally. However, unknown to you but you might be making the cardinal mistake of failing to meet the standards of etiquette when it comes to the wedding registry.
But you do not have to come ill-prepared, this article has collected a series of do’s and don’ts when it comes to your wedding registry, so that come wedding day, you would not be inadvertently offending someone by committing a wedding registry faux pas.
DO: HAVE AN EARLY SET UP FOR YOUR REGISTRY
Ideally, you should be setting up your registry the moment you get engaged. Family, friends and relatives would want to send early gifts and may not want to be hampered during your big day. Also, this will give your wedding guests that much needed legroom when it comes to selecting a wedding gift from the registry for you.
DO: REGISTER AN ARRAY OF GIFTS AT VARIOUS PRICE POINTS
In this way, you would be giving your guests the liberty to select from a wide range of gifts at a price they can probably afford. Try to keep the prices of the gifts you have registered reasonable and ideally, you should know your audience. If you have high rollers for guests then by all means, register pricey gifts but if you have to question whether a gift is appropriate with such a hefty price tag, chances are others will probably will too.
DO: WAIT TO USE THE PRESENTS THE ARRIVE BEFORE THE WEDDING
Apart from the unfortunate event of the wedding not taking place thus compelling you to return the gifts, there is also that little concern that they may break before you can actually use them as a wedded couple. On another note, it is a general rule that gifts must be returned in the same way they were given so exercise precaution by refraining from opening them before your happy day.
DON’T: ASK FOR MONEY OUTRIGHT
It is tacky and strips your wedding guests of the liberty in choosing a gift for you. However, if you are after monetary gifts, then the best course of action is not to register anywhere and hope for the best that your guests will take this as a subtle hint. Family and friends can spread—not you nor your fiancé-can convey this message to your wedding guests. Additionally, you can use euphemisms in place of the word money.
DON’T: REFERENCE YOUR REGISTRY ON ANY INVITATION OR SAVE THE DATE
Doing so leaves your guests the impression that a gift is mandatory and expected of them. It is in very poor taste, and likely tells your guests that they are to get your gifts only at the place where you are registered. The best way to have them know where you are registered is through word of mouth which should be conveyed by your bridal entourage or the bride’s parents.
DON’T: REGISTER AT JUST ONE LOCATION
The store where you are registered might be convenient for you, but the same cannot be said for your guests. Ideally you should register with at least two or three stores, this will give your guests a wide variety of gifts to choose from, and they can also choose the store they find most accessible and convenient. Remember, your guests are buying you wedding gifts—make it easier for them.
Before your wedding day, make sure you have taken a mental note of these do’s and don’ts and never neglect to promptly thank your guests for their gifts. Text messages or voice calls would not do—it implies a sense of detachment and does not convey true gratefulness. Thank your guests the old-fashioned way by writing each other thank you notes. It is the least you can do after they have cleared their schedules to attend your wedding and grant you a wedding gift as well.