We have all attended weddings at some point in our lives. For some in the latter part of their twenties, it becomes a rather regular occasion with your news feed popping up now and then showing your friends’ and acquaintances proposal and wedding videos. However, being a wedding guest is not all about dressing up, showing up to the affair and eating some of the great food offered by the wedding caterer.
No, weddings are not only about the romance and the glam and if you have attended enough weddings in a lifetime, but you will also certainly notice a trend. And though all the guests would be able to speak of is the glamour of the event, there are some things that they are aware of but just would not talk about. The fact is, there are things you should aptly observe the next time you are invited to a wedding and see if any of the things below are true for you as it currently is for us.
1.) At some point in your life, it will occur at least three to five times in a year. When you are at a certain age, it is inevitable that you have friends who are approximately around your age, and these friends may choose to get married roughly in the same year. Think of it as a welcome way to dress up instead and try to think of ways to make one wedding outfit different for every wedding you attend if you are on a budget. You do not want to look glaringly the same in every wedding taken photo after all.
2.) A majority of the speeches you will hear would sound the same. Though this largely depends on who the couple elects to their speech, a standard practice has been that the best man and the maid of honor do the toasts. Unless the groom’s best man is someone other than his best friend, most of their speeches will be anecdotes and a retelling of how the couple met and how rowdy their initial days were. The bride will probably have a gushy and cheesy speech at the end of the night, and it may leave some of the more sentimental and emotional guests in tears.
3.) People often overlook the fact that the half-filled glass of champagne is saved for toasts. It may seem obvious to some. However, this may come as a surprise to many people, but the glass half-filled with champagne is reserved for toasts and should not be drunk during dinner—unless you plan on getting hammered that is. Remember, you may probably have a lot more toasts to sip to, so try to keep your sips to a minimum.
4.) RSVP’ing is apparently more important than people originally thought. Apart from it being the courteous thing to do, it helps the couple account for the heads they are about to feed during their wedding. When you do receive your invitation, RSVP as soon as possible and do not attend the wedding with an uninvited guest or even show up unannounced. When you fail to RSVP, the couple may assume you are not coming which means your designated spot and the budget allocated for you may have been given to someone else.
5.) You will inevitably imagine how your own wedding would look like. Even if you are not the romantic and sentimental type, envisioning how yours would look like is an inescapable thought. Though not necessarily focused on the syrupy aspect of a wedding, you will probably think of what kind of flowers you are going to have, how your entourage would look like if you would probably do the same things that the couple did, etc.
6.) At all costs, do not be the center of attention. Whether it may be from all the ruckus you are causing from being way too intoxicated or from the looks you are getting with the type of garb you are wearing, you should never be the center of attention during a couple’s big day. Not only will you come off as self-absorbed and selfish, but you are taking a couple’s chance to have a day to be all about them. So for the day, suck it up and behave yourself. You will have your own wedding soon, and you probably would not want anyone stealing your spotlight either.