Five Things to Keep in Mind When Writing A Wedding Vow

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“You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” -Sam Keen

 

There are a lot of things to consider for a wedding: the venue for one, the catering, the menu, the wedding package in the Philippines you selected, the wedding dress—those among a myriad of other stuff you have to consider. You will be surprised however that what is mentioned in the preceding sentence is just a fraction of the entirety of your entire wedding day. With all this considered, it is almost a guarantee that there would be details you would overlook or worse, forget. Especially one that some might consider negligible like your wedding vows. Without a doubt, saying your wedding vows to your partner would take little to no time at all, but do take note that to them, this might be the best part of your wedding day.

In fact, what you might say in your wedding vows might contain the reasons why you both are getting married in the first place! So, with that in consideration, planning and writing out your wedding vows should be given as much importance as planning your wedding is. After all, you are only going through this wedding day once, and you might never get another appropriate moment to utter those promises to your partner, so be meticulous about your speech and make it with deliberate attention to how you feel for your partner.

Otherwise here are some things you should consider when writing your vows:

1.) Decide if you want to write it together

You wedding vow does not have to be a surprise spiel your spouse gets to hear only on the wedding day. However, if you wish it to be, there is also no harm in that—either way, you decide is the right way. These are your vows after all. However, even if you do decide to write it together, add a little element of surprise in your speech so that you are not really giving everything away before your big day. Consider the type of couple you and your partner are—if you like oversharing or are a bit conservative so that you will both be on the same page in writing your vows.

2.) Pick a structure you can both use as a jumping point

You and your partner can be vowing more or less similar things, and this is not necessarily a bad thing to consider. However, to have a semblance of clarity and organization in your overall speech. Come up with a structure or a phrase that you both use as a jumping point such as saying, “I promise” before your vows or “I vow”. Alternatively, you can share anecdotes about your relationship with your partner and after which, you can say your vows. Whichever way works fine.

3.) Decide on a realistic word-count maximum

While proclaiming your love to your partner without any constraints or limitations of any kind might seem like an excellent idea, you do not want your guests to doze off. They might be happy to witness your love and your union, but they are not exactly receptive to sitting through a thirty-minute vow. Set limitations such as putting a cap on your word count. Try to stay within that limit and avoid veering away from the topic.

4.) Include details

Make sure that your spiel would not sound like a generic piece of content someone might mistake for something you got off the Internet. Your speech has to be inspired, and it has to be personal. Pulling an inspired and personal speech compels you to include some details that might have symbolized your relationship. What made you fall for your partner? What are the things you do that they appreciate? From there, craft a speech that is suitably appropriate for you and your partner.

5.) Your vows are for you and your partner

Your vows do not necessarily have to sound like vows. At the end of the day, it is your wedding, and it should be definitive of how you and your partner are as a couple. If you wish to read a sonnet, read out and essay, sing or rap your vows, you can do so provided that this is the kind of couple you and your partner are. Your vows should sound like you—especially since you are making promises to your spouse.

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Weddings 101: Four Common Gripes of Wedding Guests

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“A gloomy guest fits not a wedding feast.” -Friedrich Schiller

You have invited them to your wedding, guaranteed them seats, offered them drinks and food and had decided that they are important enough to be on your most special day–and yet amidst all of this, they find something to complain about. From your standpoint, it may seem unreasonable, but if you want a great wedding experience, you should pay heed. The truth is, while your wedding day should be first and foremost all about you and your spouse, your guest’s experience and overall enjoyment are paramount to a memorable and fond affair. For this reason, it is imperative that you take note of what your guests particularly enjoy to see if you can accommodate what these are. Remember, part of what makes a successful wedding event is the support and presence of your guests so do ensure that they would have a splendid time during your wedding day. So, in looking for the best wedding package in the Philippines, do consider your guests as well.

To give you a brief idea of what your guests may not like or may not be overly fond of, here is a list of some of the most common wedding guest gripes:

1.) An inconvenient date

In a magical land wherein weddings go smoothly without a hitch, everyone can be universally available on the same date. Unfortunately, the same cannot be said for your wedding date. Try as you might, there is absolutely no date wherein all of your guests can be readily free. However, there are ways you can compromise. Do not book dates wherein you know there is a big event coming up such as worldwide holidays and the like. Though you might not be able to factor in every birthday, anniversary and the like when looking at venue availability, at least steer clear from major events that affect large numbers of people.

2.) Plus ones

Weddings are expensive, and for this reason, a strict headcount is needed so is budgeting whenever possible and sensible. However, there is a difference between forcing your unmarried friends to bask in your happiness alone and giving them the option to take a date who would enjoy the revelry with them. You might think that surely they can stomach it in and smile through it for just one day, but at the very least you would come off as insensitive. Needless to say, this is not the best tack for cost-cutting either. While you need not openly declare that your single guests cannot bring dates, do welcome your guests who have significant others to bring their plus ones to share the day.

3.) Long winded speeches

The common human has a short attention span, and while your guests may trying to be polite during an unusually long drone of wedding speeches, they are internally bored and could not wait to get it over with. Your guests are human as well, and they can become restless and distracted—particularly if you have wedding guests who brought their small tots with them. To keep it fun and entertaining, let your guests join in the fun by putting betting cards on each table trying to guess how long the speeches will take. In this way, they would be looking forward to the speeches instead of dreading them.

4.) Ungracious hosts

Remember that your guests took time off their schedules and some may have even flown all the way from out of town just to celebrate your special day. Considering this, it would only be right if you give your guests an appropriate “thank you”. You do not necessarily need to ask them to stand in queue while you individually give them your gratitude, but at least during the reception, do go from table to table and greet your guests. Have a few photos taken with them and mingle; it is the very least you can do. After all, you do not want your wedding guests to feel like mere observers instead of actual participants to your wedding day.

 

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Five Things You Should Never Say to A Bride Before Her Wedding

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“Happy is the bride that the sun shines on” -Robert Herrick

Weeks prior to a wedding, there is no one more stressed than the bride herself. For someone who has been dreaming about walking the aisle ever since her husband-to-be proposed, she wants every aspect of her wedding to be perfect, and the way she envisioned it—anything less than stellar would be unacceptable. Considering how she has meticulously planned every detail of the big day, from scouring the best catering services in pasay (or wherever she might be) to the wedding souvenirs, it would be no surprise if some brides would be near breaking point days or even weeks before her wedding.

Knowing all this, it would be unwise for any of her guests to say something insensitive to her that would cause her to either get uncomfortable or riled up. Unfortunately, not all of her guests have enough tact to practice it, and some may be none the wiser. So, if you are attending a wedding anytime soon, here are some things that you should never say when you are conversing with the bride-to-be:

1.) “Why are you not inviting (name of your brother, a roommate of yours in college, a common friend, the bride’s ex)?”

It may sound like you are just curious, but for some brides-to-be, this can be a rather touchy and sensitive subject. Remember that everyone is accounted for during the wedding reception and more often than not, the couple pays per guest. Seeing as this would be the case, most couples would opt to invite only their closest family and friends to avoid exorbitant fees. Stay out of this, and just be thankful you even made it to their guest list instead.

2.) “You should be able to get whatever you want. It is your big day after all.”

While you probably mean well, the bride might not exactly feel that way. Consider that one of the most private and incredibly delicate matters of planning wedding is the budget, so it is best if you do not get involved. At all. Do not suggest something more expensive than what she has chosen as she likely has her reasons for choosing them (and you will only sound like an insensitive friend when you do). Besides, if she could afford them, she would probably be getting them.

3.) “When are you starting a family? Will you be having kids?”

Again, you may sound like you are naturally curious, but it may come off as if you are prying. This is none of your business. Comment about the wedding decorations or the food, but stay away from something personal to the bride and groom. Who knows? Even they have not even figured the answer to your question just yet.

4.) “Are you pregnant?”

No, just no. Of all the questions you should never ask the bride, this one has to be the most insensitive of them all and more often than not, you would be indirectly insulting the bride. You may have heard it from the other guests gossiping or so, but if the bride does not offer this information to you herself, do not ask confirmation from her.

5.) Do not mention anything about divorce

If you are a married guest, you may just want to shed some wisdom, and if you are unmarried, you may just want to offer a little insight. Regardless of what you are, however, you are going to sound resoundingly bitter to the bride, and it would seem like you are raining on her parade. Remember that this is her big day, so any gloomy talk about divorce, separations and general unhappiness should be avoided. Do not even try to joke about this if you do not want to be at the receiving end of the bride’s or her her other guests’ death glares.

 

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Four Ways to Make Your Weddings Look Luxe and Expensive on a Budget

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“This is your wedding day. Do what you love. Invite the people you want. Dance to the songs that bring you most joy. Eat the best food you will ever have. Be the king and queen of the rest of your life. Enjoy all moments. Share the photographs with your children and grandchildren. Most of all, spend the rest of your days with the person you love.” -Anonymous

“There are no perfect weddings, just beautiful ones” -Anonymous

 

Almost every woman in existence has dreamed about what her wedding would look like and some of them would even have most of the details nailed down by the time they reach their teens. Some may like it big, grand and dramatic while some would prefer and intimate but sophisticated setting yet regardless of what kind of wedding you want to take place, a budget is undoubtedly needed. However, brides-to-be nowadays are under the erroneous impression that throw a beautiful wedding, you would need a rather large-scale budget and that those with financial and budget constraints or inflexible budgets would have to settle for something substandard.

This is absolutely not the case as there are ways to stay in your budget and throw an elegant and luxurious wedding party sans breaking the bank. Keep in mind though that with limited funds, prioritization is key and knowing which elements of the wedding are most important to you will be crucial when it comes to planning and allocating funds appropriately. Your initial bet into the wedding planning phase should be looking for wedding packages that might suit your taste (there are a lot of wedding packages in the Philippines that would cater to your needs). From there, you can follow these tips:

 

1.) When in doubt, opt for simplicity

No matter how beautiful you want your wedding to be, if you go overboard with the wedding decors, you are going to end up with a clutter and there is nothing tackier than that. If you are working with a strict budget, keep your wedding decorations simple and streamlined. Make the details simple and do not go overboard by executing a lot of DIY details that are better handled by the professionals. Elegance does not mean overabundance, so decorate minimally and simply but beautifully.

2.) Plan your floral decor strategically

Without a doubt, flowers would be one of the most important decors of a wedding. They are essential in beautifying a reception hall and the church, but they are also one of the most expensive items you would need for a wedding. To make sure you do not run up your bill with the florist, be strategic as to how and where you would put your flowers and what kind of variety they will be. Be smart with your choices and do not go for expensive flowers where you can get more on cheaper flowers for roughly the same price.

3.) Try your hand at DIY

Though it is not advisable to go fully DIY on your wedding decors, there are some aspects where you can dabble in a bit of DIY. If you are unsure about this, then go for the simplest and safest wedding decor you can possibly do yourself: Paper items. Handle the making of menus, seating cards, invitations and ceremony programs by yourself. At least in this way, you would not only be saving yourself the extra money, you would also be giving your wedding decors an interesting quirk by having done it by hand which your guests will surely appreciate.

4.) Limit your guest list

There is a huge difference between planning an elegant wedding with the same budget for 150 guests and throwing a wedding party with 70 guests in an attendance–the latter is a lot more possible while the former would have to make do with whatever shortcuts and compromises they can make. More often than not, a lavish wedding coupled with a lengthy guest list and a shoestring budget is just hardly possible so it would be advisable to crop your guest list. Spreading your small budget over a large number of guests would constrain you to cut corners and forego the things you originally want just to accommodate more guests. Having a smaller guest list on a budget on the other hand, would give you an avenue for having an intimate yet unforgettable experience.

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Finding a Wedding Planner : Six Questions to Ask Your Potential Planner

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“The first rule for choosing vendors is to avoid those who suggest that your budget is not sufficient. The planning process should be about taking your ideas and making them work.” –Mindy Weiss

When it comes to the biggest day of their lives and tying the knot, no person can be more meticulous (and quite fastidious at times) than the bride. As a bride, this is that one special day you have been looking forward to most of your life. Considering this is the case, you would want everything in place and everything to be perfect. As perfection is hardly attainable on your own in any setting (things are bound to get awry on a wedding day), you have decided to enlist the assistance of a professional wedding coordinator. Your wedding coordinator or planner does not only take care of your wedding’s logistics, he or she is basically the person who makes your dream wedding materialize. In a sense, you can think of them as that cohesive component that binds all of your dream wedding’s elements together.

It is precisely for this reason that you would require your wedding planners or coordinators to not only be professional but organized as well. Organization is paramount. With the very diverse factors coming into play during your wedding, a systematic and strategic approach is essential to leverage on your wedding event. Additionally, they would serve as your point person every step of the way, so it is imperative that you feel at ease with who you hire. These are just a few things you have to keep in mind when you are hiring a wedding planner, but to ascertain if a person is fit for the job, it is best to conduct an interview. Here are a series of questions you should ask your potential planner before deciding on hiring them.

1.) Are you available on my wedding date?

This should be your initial question during the interview as you would not want to waste any more time in planning with them if they are not even available on your desired date. However, if your dates are still flexible then compromise. Make sure you are willing to wait until your chosen wedding coordinator is free to work with you. You can also ask for more options which you can take into consideration when you are finalizing your wedding date.

2.) What’s the cost of the average wedding you plan?

Some wedding planners go beyond just planning the wedding of your dreams. Some of them would be the one to contact other necessary wedding vendors that would complement the other elements and tie up the entire event. These professional wedding planners would offer these services in their wedding packages in the Philippines. These packages come at a price which would help you gauge whether or not it is within your allocated budget.

3.) What other services do you offer?

A brief gander at a wedding professional planner’s website would not yield so much information about what other services they may offer or what their services exactly are. You need to have an idea what the full wedding package means and a good way to do this is to ask for an explanation on how they can help you with your wedding planning. The information given to you is a pivotal factor in deciding which type of planner would work best for your needs.

4.) How many weddings have you planned?

This will give you an average on how much experience your potential planner already has. Ideally, you would want someone who has planned at least a few weddings—especially if a wedding specific experience is what you are after. Weddings should be their specialty as planning other events such as corporation gatherings and other soirees do not have the same logistics as planning a wedding. Weddings have a more emotional and personal feel that other parties lack.

5.) How do you propose to help me stay within my budget?

A good coordinator or planner would never tell you that your wedding budget is inadequate to create a wedding event. Without even knowing your budget, a great planner would have suggestions on wedding venues that would be friendly to your pockets. Additionally, they would come up with ways to help you save and have alternatives to expensive options.

6.) How do payments work? Will there be additional expenses on top of your base fee?

This is imperative if you do not want to be surprised by how much you would be paying your wedding planner after the event is done. Know what is and what is not included in the fee they have quoted you and how they calculate it so you can budget for anything extra. Ascertain if their base fee already covers all of their other expenses (food, parking, etc.) or if there would be another expense on top of that. This is also a chance for you to negotiate with them as regards the payment schedule and the types of fees before signing the contract.

 

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Five Things to Consider When Choosing Your Event Venue

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Much of what contributes to the success and failure of your wedding venue has to do with where you have decided to hold it. You may have everything picked out from your bridal gown, the entourage’s bridal gown, the ring picked out, the date down to the rough idea of your guest estimate, but you have not chosen an appropriate venue as of the moment. It is pivotal to consider where you want your wedding venue to be held months before the wedding as this will play a very pivotal factor on how you and your wedding coordinator would play things out during your wedding reception.

Before anything else, your initial step should be to know whether you want a destination wedding or a hometown wedding. This would prevent you from wasting time shopping venues all over and help you consider which venues would be best. Once you have that covered, then take a gander at all the venues that are available within the area but before you make any kind of cash exchange or form any lasting attachment with the rustic feel of the garden venue you just visited, there are vital things you have to consider.

1.) CONSIDER YOUR STYLE

Though your wedding venue does not really dictate how the rest of your wedding logistics would go, as far as your style is concerned, it is imperative that your venue would be able to handle it. Whether you are aiming for a rustic feel, a traditional and formal tone. A blow-out bash or boho, whichever style you and your partner would choose would play a very important factor in determining where you would host your celebration. Some venues regularly host weddings and would be equipped to host a wedding party. However, if you choose a totally off-beat venue, you may find they will be severely lacking in equipment to accommodate your wedding needs which would leave you and your coordinator with much to do.

2.) ESTIMATE YOUR BUDGET AND YOUR GUEST LIST

Early on, you may not have a good grasp of how many guests you will be seating for your event, but at least have a rough estimate and add a bit more (consider that some guests may bring uninvited visitors or their kids). From this, take a realistic look at your budget as well and try to look for wedding venues that would accommodate both your guest list and the wedding budget you have.

3.) CONSIDER THE LOGISTICS

After you have a list of possible venues for your wedding and being visiting each of them, you may find yourself attracted to the idea of having your ceremony in the space consider the visual aesthetics it holds. Stop or slow down. Do not hastily make decisions right away and consider everything that is written on your list. The venue you may have chosen may have all the visual appeal you can dream of, but lacks the necessary equipment or factors to complete the logistics of having a wedding at that venue.

4.) TAKE NOTE OF YOU CATERING NEEDS

You and your spouse may want to serve your wedding guests a very specific menu from a caterer you have both chosen, but do take note that not every venue would allow you to bring in your own caterer. Some venues would constrain you to choose from their in-house menus which they would serve to your guests. Some venues would give you much leverage on this one and may not be as strict as the others. But before deciding on a venue, make sure this is something you would consider.

5.) VISIT YOUR POTENTIAL VENUE MORE THAN ONCE

Visit all the potential events place in Quezon city or wherever you may want your wedding to be. Once you have sifted your list of wedding venues to two or three frontrunners, go back and give them another visit. Have they retained the same charm? Do they check every requirement you have on your list? Logistical and stylistic-wise? Can it hold all of your guests and do you think you are getting a bang for your buck by booking this place? After you have answered all these, visit the place around the same time you will be using it for your wedding ceremony/reception and see how it looks. Observe the lighting and if the aesthetic feel of the space is still the same.

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DIY Weddings: Five Tips to Make Your Wedding Event A Success!

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One of the most stressful events to plan is a wedding as there are so many logistics involved in creating a successful one. This is why engaged couples rarely take the do-it-yourself route, however when they do, it would take a whole lot of patience on their part and a touch of particularity and meticulousness that would ensure that their wedding event would be a success. Having a DIY wedding comes with many perks as for one, it gives your event that unique and personalized feel and more often than not, it gives your guest that sense of wonder of being at a distinctive wedding they have never been to before. This in itself would already make your big day memorable.

Of course, when couples do take this route, they need to understand that they cannot do everything alone. For one, it would probably be the best tack to leave the catering to the professionals for the wedding event unless they have a relatively small affair wherein a small potluck would be sufficient. One thing couples going for this route should consider is the fact that though they have elected to do DIY, they would also need to seek the help of professionals however minimally just so there is a streamlined flow during their wedding day. So, for those affianced couples considering a DIY wedding, here are a few tips to make your wedding day memorable.

TIP 1: HIRE A PROFESSIONAL PLANNER ON A LIMITED BASIS

You may have wanted to do everything by yourself but consider that hiring a planner (even for just a limited time) would eventually pay off. These professionals do not necessarily have to be with you every step of the way if you are truly considering on doing everything by yourself or are on a tight budget. What they can do for you, however, in a limited amount of time, is offer you creative ideas and options that would likely fit your budget which would all be largely DIY. These are the options that you and your spouse-to-be can pull off without so much of a direction and would not need a professional in order to accomplish. Going for this route would certainly save you a lot of time in planning and brainstorming wedding plans.

TIP 2: KNOW WHERE TO START

If you are really bent on doing it all on your own, you need a good place to start—an aspect in your wedding which would make the other facets of your wedding fall into place. To figure out what this is, it is best if you and your spouse-to-be first come up with an ideal budget for your wedding, look into how much you are willing to spend and how many people you would want to invite. These two are directly proportional to each other, so make sure they coincide and are in congruence to each other. From there, you would have a sense of what type of wedding would suit you best.

TIP 3: THINK TWICE BEFORE ENLISTING THE HELP OF FAMILY

The same advice goes for enlisting the help of your friends. Consider that someone who is emotionally invested in your wedding may lack the necessary objective judgment needed to handle the process smoothly. The reality is, you will have a lot of trouble voicing out your concerns and dislikes when it comes to scrutinizing the choices your relatives have made for you because you are constrained to play polite so as to avoid hurting their feelings. If you truly want to enlist the help of a relative or a friend, be discerning enough in doing so and make sure you are both clear on your terms as to what you want for your wedding.

TIP 4: ANTICIPATE CHANGES

No matter how prepared you are, there will be things that may go wrong and these are inevitable. However, this should not deter you from having a grand day, what you can do instead is to prepare adequately for this. Have contingency plans and be prepared for every scenario that may occur.

TIP 5: KEEP EVERYTHING IN PERSPECTIVE

Always remember that no wedding is perfect, and yours would not be either. However, that does not mean that there are no beautiful weddings and in fact, yours will be. Just keep everything in perspective, enjoy the planning process and remember that this is a one-day event and party and at the end of the day, regardless of whether something went wrong or not, you are still getting married to the love of your life.

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