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“Weddings are not about spending the least amount of money or the most amount of money; they are about spending good money on the elements that are most important to you and your partner.” -Kristi Richardson
Planning a wedding is no easy feat. There are a lot of aspects and elements to consider that a bride would feel by the overall logistics that are involved in simply pulling off a grand event. After all, this would be one of the momentous and biggest events in a woman’s life; it is only right that she be extra meticulous when it comes to hashing out and planning the details. For this reason, many brides would elect to avail of the services of a wedding planner, and you might not just know it, but it could potentially be your best investment when it comes to your wedding day. Without a doubt, careful planning and execution are two essential aspects that can make or break a wedding—an expertise of many wedding planners. So, if you wish to have a wedding to remember for years to come, you might want to hire a wedding planner.
Other than ensuring that everything goes seamlessly on your wedding day and assisting you with the planning, there is a myriad of reasons why hiring a wedding planner would be advantageous. Here are four reasons why:
1.) You deserve everything to be perfect on your wedding day
Most brides have envisioned what their ideal wedding would be like at a very young age. In their mind, they have already mapped out how their big day would look and feel like. Unfortunately, translating your perfect wedding is not as simple as you wish it to be—especially if you are undertaking the planning alone. This is where your wedding planner would be helpful. Planning a wedding takes a lot of hard work and time to put together perfectly. Your wedding planner has the necessary expertise and experience to pull it off as they have organized the same event over and over that it has become somewhat of their specialty. As a consequence, with their constant practice comes perfection.
2.) It helps you stick to a budget
One of the most integral aspects of planning a wedding is your budget. A wedding no matter how big or small will inevitably cost you and if you bungle your budget and receive the bills, you might find out you just spent more than you initially bargained for. A wedding planner doubles as a financial adviser by realistically telling you what you can do with the budget you have. More often than not, they offer you affordable alternatives or would ask you to compromise to ensure that each aspect of your wedding is top notch.
3.) Wedding planning should be enjoyable, not stressful
Regardless of how much planning goes into pulling off a wedding, it should be an enjoyable process. Furthermore, while you are planning a wedding, you should never neglect to spend special time with your special man and groom-to-be. After all, days leading up to your wedding should be filled with bliss and anticipation, not anxiety and stress. Hiring an excellent wedding planner will help you with that, and they have all the necessary skills to deal with everything on your behalf.
4.) You have a day job
Having a 9-5 job and hashing out the nitty gritty details of what you want to happen in your wedding just would not mix. Planning a wedding takes a lot of commitment and effort, and if you have a day job, it might not be as easy as it would be had you just hired a wedding planner. Your wedding planner would function as your personal assistant whose job is to look for potential vendors for you and basically do all the running around for your wedding.
“A good wedding planner will invariably save the bride money. Everything is negotiable in this business.” -Richard Markel
Planning a wedding can be one of the most exciting things you can do in your life. Unfortunately, if you are the bride, it can potentially be one of the most stressful as well. To alleviate your stress levels and help you have a better execution of plans during your wedding day, it is highly recommended that you employ the services of a wedding planner. These planners are already well-experienced in your field and have the necessary expertise to deliver as you expect them to. More often than not, the success or failure of your wedding event hinges on how well your wedding planner can execute your plans and put them into action. With this in mind, it is pivotal that you have a constant correspondence with them and maintain this professional relationship until your wedding day.
To ensure that your wedding planner can properly deliver, here are some things you should ask and discuss with them:
1.) How do you keep in touch with clients?
Wedding planning inevitably entails making a lot of decisions, and there are some of these you might want to gloss over with your wedding planner. As a result, you can expect to be in regular communication with them. Seeing as regular correspondence is paramount to the fruition of your wedding plans, it is essential that you ask prospective candidates as to how they will be communicating with you months, weeks and days leading up to the meeting. Make sure that the method they prefer is one that sits well with you. Would you like to do it over the phone? Or would you like to have regular sit-down meetings with them?
2.) What services do you offer?
In order to have an objective comparison among your prospective candidates, it is best if you ask what services their wedding planning entails. Sometimes, the venue you choose already comes with a coordinator but they would not probably meet your expectations or would provide an extensive list of services. Select someone who can cover the rest of the details of your wedding planning and someone who can meet all of your planning needs and expectations.
3.) What type of experience do you have?
Seeing as your wedding day will be one of the most momentous events you will ever have in your life, it would be best if you select someone who has had a lot of previous experiences. Know when the planner was in business and for how long and find out whether he or she is doing this freelance or is employed by a large company. Additionally, it would not hurt to have them describe some of the best weddings they have previously planned and coordinated—especially if the wedding is similar to yours in terms of size, budget, location or theme.
4.) Who are your preferred vendors?
You are going to need a lot of vendors for your wedding if you want it to resemble anything like you have dreamed it to be. From the florist to the caterer, your wedding planner might already have a list of potential vendors you can hire. More often than not, these are vendors she or he has already worked with before and can be trusted to pull everything off during your wedding day. However, do not just stop there, leaf through their portfolios and compare before you select the vendors you do want to service your wedding.
5.) Can you help us stay on budget?
Your budget is paramount to your wedding plans, so it is only right that you ask your planner whether or not they can help you stick to yours. A good planner would be able to secure enough vendor discounts to offset his or her services. Have a talk with your planners about your budget and see what you both can work with. Furthermore, steer clear from planners who are not entirely committed to your budget.
“You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” -Sam Keen
There are a lot of things to consider for a wedding: the venue for one, the catering, the menu, the wedding package in the Philippines you selected, the wedding dress—those among a myriad of other stuff you have to consider. You will be surprised however that what is mentioned in the preceding sentence is just a fraction of the entirety of your entire wedding day. With all this considered, it is almost a guarantee that there would be details you would overlook or worse, forget. Especially one that some might consider negligible like your wedding vows. Without a doubt, saying your wedding vows to your partner would take little to no time at all, but do take note that to them, this might be the best part of your wedding day.
In fact, what you might say in your wedding vows might contain the reasons why you both are getting married in the first place! So, with that in consideration, planning and writing out your wedding vows should be given as much importance as planning your wedding is. After all, you are only going through this wedding day once, and you might never get another appropriate moment to utter those promises to your partner, so be meticulous about your speech and make it with deliberate attention to how you feel for your partner.
Otherwise here are some things you should consider when writing your vows:
1.) Decide if you want to write it together
You wedding vow does not have to be a surprise spiel your spouse gets to hear only on the wedding day. However, if you wish it to be, there is also no harm in that—either way, you decide is the right way. These are your vows after all. However, even if you do decide to write it together, add a little element of surprise in your speech so that you are not really giving everything away before your big day. Consider the type of couple you and your partner are—if you like oversharing or are a bit conservative so that you will both be on the same page in writing your vows.
2.) Pick a structure you can both use as a jumping point
You and your partner can be vowing more or less similar things, and this is not necessarily a bad thing to consider. However, to have a semblance of clarity and organization in your overall speech. Come up with a structure or a phrase that you both use as a jumping point such as saying, “I promise” before your vows or “I vow”. Alternatively, you can share anecdotes about your relationship with your partner and after which, you can say your vows. Whichever way works fine.
3.) Decide on a realistic word-count maximum
While proclaiming your love to your partner without any constraints or limitations of any kind might seem like an excellent idea, you do not want your guests to doze off. They might be happy to witness your love and your union, but they are not exactly receptive to sitting through a thirty-minute vow. Set limitations such as putting a cap on your word count. Try to stay within that limit and avoid veering away from the topic.
4.) Include details
Make sure that your spiel would not sound like a generic piece of content someone might mistake for something you got off the Internet. Your speech has to be inspired, and it has to be personal. Pulling an inspired and personal speech compels you to include some details that might have symbolized your relationship. What made you fall for your partner? What are the things you do that they appreciate? From there, craft a speech that is suitably appropriate for you and your partner.
5.) Your vows are for you and your partner
Your vows do not necessarily have to sound like vows. At the end of the day, it is your wedding, and it should be definitive of how you and your partner are as a couple. If you wish to read a sonnet, read out and essay, sing or rap your vows, you can do so provided that this is the kind of couple you and your partner are. Your vows should sound like you—especially since you are making promises to your spouse.
“A gloomy guest fits not a wedding feast.” -Friedrich Schiller
You have invited them to your wedding, guaranteed them seats, offered them drinks and food and had decided that they are important enough to be on your most special day–and yet amidst all of this, they find something to complain about. From your standpoint, it may seem unreasonable, but if you want a great wedding experience, you should pay heed. The truth is, while your wedding day should be first and foremost all about you and your spouse, your guest’s experience and overall enjoyment are paramount to a memorable and fond affair. For this reason, it is imperative that you take note of what your guests particularly enjoy to see if you can accommodate what these are. Remember, part of what makes a successful wedding event is the support and presence of your guests so do ensure that they would have a splendid time during your wedding day. So, in looking for the best wedding package in the Philippines, do consider your guests as well.
To give you a brief idea of what your guests may not like or may not be overly fond of, here is a list of some of the most common wedding guest gripes:
1.) An inconvenient date
In a magical land wherein weddings go smoothly without a hitch, everyone can be universally available on the same date. Unfortunately, the same cannot be said for your wedding date. Try as you might, there is absolutely no date wherein all of your guests can be readily free. However, there are ways you can compromise. Do not book dates wherein you know there is a big event coming up such as worldwide holidays and the like. Though you might not be able to factor in every birthday, anniversary and the like when looking at venue availability, at least steer clear from major events that affect large numbers of people.
2.) Plus ones
Weddings are expensive, and for this reason, a strict headcount is needed so is budgeting whenever possible and sensible. However, there is a difference between forcing your unmarried friends to bask in your happiness alone and giving them the option to take a date who would enjoy the revelry with them. You might think that surely they can stomach it in and smile through it for just one day, but at the very least you would come off as insensitive. Needless to say, this is not the best tack for cost-cutting either. While you need not openly declare that your single guests cannot bring dates, do welcome your guests who have significant others to bring their plus ones to share the day.
3.) Long winded speeches
The common human has a short attention span, and while your guests may trying to be polite during an unusually long drone of wedding speeches, they are internally bored and could not wait to get it over with. Your guests are human as well, and they can become restless and distracted—particularly if you have wedding guests who brought their small tots with them. To keep it fun and entertaining, let your guests join in the fun by putting betting cards on each table trying to guess how long the speeches will take. In this way, they would be looking forward to the speeches instead of dreading them.
4.) Ungracious hosts
Remember that your guests took time off their schedules and some may have even flown all the way from out of town just to celebrate your special day. Considering this, it would only be right if you give your guests an appropriate “thank you”. You do not necessarily need to ask them to stand in queue while you individually give them your gratitude, but at least during the reception, do go from table to table and greet your guests. Have a few photos taken with them and mingle; it is the very least you can do. After all, you do not want your wedding guests to feel like mere observers instead of actual participants to your wedding day.
“Happy is the bride that the sun shines on” -Robert Herrick
Weeks prior to a wedding, there is no one more stressed than the bride herself. For someone who has been dreaming about walking the aisle ever since her husband-to-be proposed, she wants every aspect of her wedding to be perfect, and the way she envisioned it—anything less than stellar would be unacceptable. Considering how she has meticulously planned every detail of the big day, from scouring the best catering services in pasay (or wherever she might be) to the wedding souvenirs, it would be no surprise if some brides would be near breaking point days or even weeks before her wedding.
Knowing all this, it would be unwise for any of her guests to say something insensitive to her that would cause her to either get uncomfortable or riled up. Unfortunately, not all of her guests have enough tact to practice it, and some may be none the wiser. So, if you are attending a wedding anytime soon, here are some things that you should never say when you are conversing with the bride-to-be:
1.) “Why are you not inviting (name of your brother, a roommate of yours in college, a common friend, the bride’s ex)?”
It may sound like you are just curious, but for some brides-to-be, this can be a rather touchy and sensitive subject. Remember that everyone is accounted for during the wedding reception and more often than not, the couple pays per guest. Seeing as this would be the case, most couples would opt to invite only their closest family and friends to avoid exorbitant fees. Stay out of this, and just be thankful you even made it to their guest list instead.
2.) “You should be able to get whatever you want. It is your big day after all.”
While you probably mean well, the bride might not exactly feel that way. Consider that one of the most private and incredibly delicate matters of planning wedding is the budget, so it is best if you do not get involved. At all. Do not suggest something more expensive than what she has chosen as she likely has her reasons for choosing them (and you will only sound like an insensitive friend when you do). Besides, if she could afford them, she would probably be getting them.
3.) “When are you starting a family? Will you be having kids?”
Again, you may sound like you are naturally curious, but it may come off as if you are prying. This is none of your business. Comment about the wedding decorations or the food, but stay away from something personal to the bride and groom. Who knows? Even they have not even figured the answer to your question just yet.
4.) “Are you pregnant?”
No, just no. Of all the questions you should never ask the bride, this one has to be the most insensitive of them all and more often than not, you would be indirectly insulting the bride. You may have heard it from the other guests gossiping or so, but if the bride does not offer this information to you herself, do not ask confirmation from her.
5.) Do not mention anything about divorce
If you are a married guest, you may just want to shed some wisdom, and if you are unmarried, you may just want to offer a little insight. Regardless of what you are, however, you are going to sound resoundingly bitter to the bride, and it would seem like you are raining on her parade. Remember that this is her big day, so any gloomy talk about divorce, separations and general unhappiness should be avoided. Do not even try to joke about this if you do not want to be at the receiving end of the bride’s or her her other guests’ death glares.
“This is your wedding day. Do what you love. Invite the people you want. Dance to the songs that bring you most joy. Eat the best food you will ever have. Be the king and queen of the rest of your life. Enjoy all moments. Share the photographs with your children and grandchildren. Most of all, spend the rest of your days with the person you love.” -Anonymous
“There are no perfect weddings, just beautiful ones” -Anonymous
Almost every woman in existence has dreamed about what her wedding would look like and some of them would even have most of the details nailed down by the time they reach their teens. Some may like it big, grand and dramatic while some would prefer and intimate but sophisticated setting yet regardless of what kind of wedding you want to take place, a budget is undoubtedly needed. However, brides-to-be nowadays are under the erroneous impression that throw a beautiful wedding, you would need a rather large-scale budget and that those with financial and budget constraints or inflexible budgets would have to settle for something substandard.
This is absolutely not the case as there are ways to stay in your budget and throw an elegant and luxurious wedding party sans breaking the bank. Keep in mind though that with limited funds, prioritization is key and knowing which elements of the wedding are most important to you will be crucial when it comes to planning and allocating funds appropriately. Your initial bet into the wedding planning phase should be looking for wedding packages that might suit your taste (there are a lot of wedding packages in the Philippines that would cater to your needs). From there, you can follow these tips:
1.) When in doubt, opt for simplicity
No matter how beautiful you want your wedding to be, if you go overboard with the wedding decors, you are going to end up with a clutter and there is nothing tackier than that. If you are working with a strict budget, keep your wedding decorations simple and streamlined. Make the details simple and do not go overboard by executing a lot of DIY details that are better handled by the professionals. Elegance does not mean overabundance, so decorate minimally and simply but beautifully.
2.) Plan your floral decor strategically
Without a doubt, flowers would be one of the most important decors of a wedding. They are essential in beautifying a reception hall and the church, but they are also one of the most expensive items you would need for a wedding. To make sure you do not run up your bill with the florist, be strategic as to how and where you would put your flowers and what kind of variety they will be. Be smart with your choices and do not go for expensive flowers where you can get more on cheaper flowers for roughly the same price.
3.) Try your hand at DIY
Though it is not advisable to go fully DIY on your wedding decors, there are some aspects where you can dabble in a bit of DIY. If you are unsure about this, then go for the simplest and safest wedding decor you can possibly do yourself: Paper items. Handle the making of menus, seating cards, invitations and ceremony programs by yourself. At least in this way, you would not only be saving yourself the extra money, you would also be giving your wedding decors an interesting quirk by having done it by hand which your guests will surely appreciate.
4.) Limit your guest list
There is a huge difference between planning an elegant wedding with the same budget for 150 guests and throwing a wedding party with 70 guests in an attendance–the latter is a lot more possible while the former would have to make do with whatever shortcuts and compromises they can make. More often than not, a lavish wedding coupled with a lengthy guest list and a shoestring budget is just hardly possible so it would be advisable to crop your guest list. Spreading your small budget over a large number of guests would constrain you to cut corners and forego the things you originally want just to accommodate more guests. Having a smaller guest list on a budget on the other hand, would give you an avenue for having an intimate yet unforgettable experience.