Wedding Gown Fittings: Six Things No One Tells You about Choosing a Wedding Dress

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“After all, there is something about a wedding gown prettier than in any other gown in the world.” –Douglas Jerrold

 

The wedding gown is the most iconic piece of garment a woman will ever wear in her life. Not only would she wear this on her most momentous day, but she would also be wearing it on an event that would have every single eye in the room trained on her. In this regard, it would be understandable why so many women would feel pressured to find the perfect gown.

However, unbeknownst to them, there is quite a myriad of things that occur when you do choose a gown—whether you are still in the process of selecting it or have already decided on one. In any case, here are the things you can expect when you are on a wedding gown or dress hunt:

 

Your childhood dreams are over

As a kid, you have probably envisioned what your wedding dress would look like and have run through it over and over your head ever since you said yes to your partner’s proposal. Unfortunately, unless you have an extremely talented designer who can customize the gown for you, it might be impossible to find in retail stores. Even if you do find it, it does not look the way you wish it had in your head and it is not definitely what you wish to wear while you walk down the aisle.

It takes a lot of tries before you find the one

Much like how you dated around to finally find that one true love of yours who you will be marrying soon, finding the perfect dress is just as elusive. Do not worry though; great things take time and an incredible amount of patience.

Sometimes nothing in the bridal boutique fits you perfectly

It might seem like an alien concept to you, but the truth is nothing will fit you perfectly in some boutique shops. Women do not come in a standard size so what might adequately fit you in other areas might feel a little snug or loose in some parts of the dress. Either everything is too tiny that the zip would not go up all the way or is too massive that it would need to be held back with a lot of pins.

So you might eventually need a seamstress

Even if you bought your wedding gown from a bridal boutique shop, if there are customizations you wish to have incorporated (such as making it fit you a lot better or some intricate beadwork), you will inevitably need a seamstress. There is no need to worry though, they know what they are doing and they can make the gown as close to the one you have in your dreams.

There is nothing such as a timeless gown

Sure, you want to buy a gown that is both classic and timeless. However, bear in mind that everything would look dated after a while, so do not push it. Just find the gown that you like best and go with that. Do not worry about it being a timeless design and the like.

You are barraged with a string of doubts when you finally pick a dress

So, you have finally picked out a wedding gown…YAY YOU! Unfortunately, it does not stop there. Once you have paid the initial deposit, you are going to spend the next few months contemplating whether you should have gotten a different design instead. Quite the indecision, is it not? As the excitement and thrill of finding the perfect down wears down, you would soon begin to realize the impracticality of the situation: You bought an expensive dress which you are going to wear just once. Not to fear though, your daughter in the future could probably use its material for her own dress as well.

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Four Ways to be an Unforgettable and Incredible Godparent

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“I am a godmother that is a great thing to be, a godmother. She calls me god for short, that is cute, I taught her that.” –Ellen DeGeneres

Being asked to be a godparent is an honor. In fact, it might just be one of the most pleasant things you will ever feel in the world. In this regard, you can truly say that the parents of your godchild hold you in such high esteem and admiration that they see you as a prospective role model for their son or daughter in the years to come. However, what does it mean to be a godparent, really? Beyond attending the baptismal rites and gracing the baptism with your presence, what is it that you should do? For the average Filipino, being a godparent constitutes as nothing more than being an entity expected to hand out treats and gifts on every significant occasion from birthdays to major milestones in life such as school graduations. However, being a godparent means so much more than just remembering birthdays and handing out Christmas gifts—you actually need to be a presence in your godchild’s life.

Considering that being asked to be a godparent is somewhat of a privilege, it carries with it a certain onus—one which you have the obligation to fulfill. So, what does it take to be a fantastic godparent? What should you do to be an unforgettable one? Take a gander at the list below to find out how:

1.) Be fun

When your godchildren are young, take the opportunity to be in their lives. Take the time to get to know them, what their interests and hobbies are and be the fun godparent. Be the doting and indulgent godparent—not by spoiling them with gifts all the time but by taking them on memorable trips. After all, you would rather be remembered as the fun godparent who took them on their first roller coaster ride than the godparent associated with gift checks and toys. Remember, there is no absolute need to buy your way into your godchild’s heart. What is important is that you spend time to bond with them.

2.) Never forget special occasions

This is a big one. As a godparent, it is your responsibility to take note of your godchildren’s birthday—mark them on your smartphone’s calendars with an alarm if you have to. Furthermore, on their special days and occasions, always remember to be there for them. It is not necessary to bring an expensive gift considering your presence alone would suffice. After all, you would not want to be that detached godparent who only sends greeting cards on special occasions. Take note: Your presence counts so much more than the present you are bringing.

3.) Know your place

While you were selected to be their godparent, this in no way means that you have some leverage on how their parents discipline them. Sure, you can serve as a good influence on them and be a great role model worth emulating. However, it should never extend beyond that. Your godchildren have parents who have their own approach to discipline as well as grandparents to mollycoddle them. Your job is to never take sides and never get entangled in familial conflicts and drama.

4.) Give your godchildren sound advice

There are instances wherein your godchildren may seek your counsel if there are things they do not wish their parents to know. One of these is when they start crushing on a classmate or begin dating. They may ask you how to approach a girl, which university they should attend and the like. In this regard, give them your sound and honest advice. Moreover, do not betray their trust, if they sought your counsel; do not go around blabbering to their parents unless it is a sensitive issue.

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Wedding Catering: Five Things Your Wedding Caterer Wish You Knew

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“Food, in the end, in our own tradition, is something holy. It is not about nutrients and calories. It is about sharing. It is about honestly. It is about identity.”-Louise Fresco

It is no question that one of the events a woman looks forward to all her life is her wedding day.

In fact, there is a very likely chance that she has meticulously planned every detail since they were little girls. With this in mind, a bride would most certainly want every detail in her wedding day from the minute aspects such as the décor to the big one like the catering. Catering is one of the integral elements of a wedding because it is one of the elements that would leave a lasting impression on your guests. Apart from wanting them to leave well-fed and satisfied, you would also want to give them a notable and exemplary gastronomic experience unlike no other. After all, you would not want to be that bride who leaves her guests starving throughout the night because there was not enough food or the food was not delectable enough.

Although you may always want the best for your wedding, your decisions may not always be sound and more often than not, it is best to trust your caterers—regardless of whether they offer expensive or affordable catering. In any case, here are some of the things your caterer wish you knew:

1.) Please listen to the pros

The reality is, there are a lot of ‘firsts’ when it comes to a wedding, and unless you have catered for a large scale of guests before, it is probably best if you listened to the seasoned professionals. Remember, you hired your caterers for a reason: their expertise and they have handled a lot of weddings prior to yours. Chances are, they already know what they are doing, so listen to them and their advice.

2.) Pinterest is not a catering menu

Inspiration is something Pinterest has a wealth of, and if you are tying the knot anytime soon, you might have probably pinned and saved some of your favorite creations. However, do know that Pinterest, albeit a terrific place for inspiration, is not always a practical tack for your wedding food. Do not expect your caterers to meticulously follow every detail on the food as more often than not, the things you see on the website have explicitly been photographed for an advertisement or blog post.

3.) It is possible to satisfy diet restrictions and your guests

Just because you cannot eat gluten does not mean the rest of your guests cannot have it too. Lucky for you, there is a myriad of catering companies out there that would cater to distinct food restrictions and specialize in every type of diet. For best results, do not simply look for specialty caterers who would accommodate your requests and food restrictions, but produce exemplary food creations as well.

4.) You need a lot of waiters

You might think that your caterer is dunking a lot of wait service staff on you just so they can bloat their asking price. But the truth is, your caterer is not trying to upsell you, they just know how many people it takes to make everything run seamlessly. However, if you do want to trim staff size, be prepared to make compromises and sacrifices. Talk to your caterer as regards your options first.

5.) Be careful who you invite to the tasting

Limit the individuals you invite to your tasting assembly. Apart from your partner and yourself, you should ideally invite only four other people who typically should be both sets of parents. Inviting too many people can potentially dilute the real assessment of the food tasting, and it can make the outcome confusing. Remember, you are not heading out to a dinner for 30 people. You are simply doing a tasting.

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Aesthetic Weddings: What Your Wedding Dress Says About You

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“Choose the gown you feel most confident in—your dress should reflect ‘you’.” –Rachel Gilbert

A wedding gown is perhaps the most important sartorial piece of garment a woman will ever wear in her life. Not only does it symbolize her transition from a single woman to that of a couple, but it is also an iconic dress that has not lost its true essence and beauty over the years. Moreover, not only is the wedding dress a woman chooses an epitome of her style and preference—it is also incredibly telling of who she is as a person. To some, the wedding gown is nothing but a mere dress you wear for only one day in your life, but to brides it might just be one of the integral elements on her wedding day.

In this regard, the dress should make a woman feel confident and beautiful. But she should also take care to remember that she should be comfortable in it as well. In any case, if you are planning to select or have already selected your wedding gown, here are some of the things it might say about you:

1.) Ball Gown

As a kid, you have probably dreamt what your wedding would look like and alongside that, you have envisioned yourself countless times in a wedding gown. You might probably have been into Disney princesses at one point in your life and wanted to look like them and on your wedding day, you have endeavored to make it come true. Your outward façade might suggest conservativeness and you may, seem traditional, but you are a romantic at heart. You believe in happy endings, love and romance itself.

2.) Jumpsuit

You are a rebel. You do not want to conform to traditional tastes and would rather be spotted getting married in something more unique. Furthermore, you are warm and laid-back which makes people feel comfortable around you. You are pretty chill when it comes to wedding preparations. In fact, what matters most to you is that by the end of the day, you do end up with the person you wish to spend the rest of your life with.

3.) Naked Dress

You are a performer and you always love putting on a show. However, your flesh dress is not about putting on a show or showing off. It is about being as dramatic as you can on the most important day in your life. To you, it would seem like your wedding is that much-awaited concert wherein you are the star everything is waiting for. Do not forget to wear nipple tapes though. You may want to put on a show but you definitely do not want to show everything!

4.) Non-White

You are an absolute non-conformist and you believe that weddings are all about what you want to happen instead of simply just tradition. In fact, you may even be a total pop-culture media junkie and you love making statements. Going with a color other than white is definitely a way to create interest in your wedding and it certainly makes ripples in terms of making a statement.

5.) Drama at the back

You love having the limelight on you, and you positively thrive in being the center of attention—so much so that even when your back is turned, you want to ensure that every single eye in the room is on you. After all, this is your wedding day, and it is probably the only chance you will ever get to be the star of the day. So, the least you can do is not only wear a stunning gown but a gown that creates drama at the back as well to keep guests talking about it even weeks after the wedding.

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Joyful Occasions: Three Things You can Expect in Every Dress Fitting

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“Just go in and try things on…things you may even think I would never wear that. Give yourself that freedom.”-Vera Wang

The wedding dress is the most iconic piece of sartorial garment a woman will ever wear in her life. With this in consideration, a bride should not only be meticulous in choosing one that suits her but should regard every process from the selection to the final fitting carefully. Choosing and purchasing your wedding gown is just the initial phase of the process. When you have finally selected the perfect dress, it just does not stop there. You need to give it back to the seamstress to design in such a way that it would be tailored to fit your comfortably and perfectly. While most of you will think that the process stops there, it actually goes beyond that.

Here are some of the things you can expect (and what you should ideally do) at every step of the process:

1.) The Dress Selection

Above all the phases you go through in your wedding gown fitting, this one is the most exciting. After all, you would be finding the gown of your dreams or designing one of your own. Ideally, you should be able to decide on a design nine months to a year prior to your wedding as this will give your seamstress or designer enough time to create the gown. To narrow down your choices, set a realistic budget and do research about the kind of dresses and designers you will love. Furthermore, bring a companion with you—someone’s opinion who you value. Their feedback will help you choose the gown that looks best. Remember not to bring too many friends as conflicting opinions can be a bad thing.

To prepare, wear a nude and strapless bra and underwear as well. If you are planning to visit multiple stores, it would be a good idea to wear comfortable shoes and simply bring heels if you wish to see the overall effect.

2.) First fitting

The first fitting is when you will evaluate whether the dress fits just right or if you would need any alterations. Two to three months before your wedding is when you should ideally have your first fitting. However, the boutique or your seamstress may contact you earlier the moment your dress is available. Before this day comes, you should now have shopped for everything else you intend to wear the moment you walk down the aisle—from your jewelry, headpieces down to your shoes. Key pieces would be the shoes and undergarments (shapewear and lingerie included). To prepare for the day, ensure that you are wearing something that would be easy to wear and take off and bring along the rest of the accessories you have purchased so that you can try them on with your dress.

After your initial excitement of seeing yourself in the dress, be sure to take note of the things that you do not like. Is the skirt just the right length? Is the elaborate beadwork done to your liking? These are the things you have to take into consideration before giving the gown back to your seamstress.

3.) The Second/Final Fitting

After the initial fitting, you will now have a second fitting where you try on the dress with all the adjustments you have made which should occur five to six weeks before your wedding day. To be sure that everything you wish has been incorporated, make a list of the alterations you had planned and keep an eye out for them when you get the dress. Bring in a sharp-eyed companion who accompanied you on your first fitting as they would know which parts of the dress you wish to have altered as well.

To prepare, bring the same items as you did during your first fitting.

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Beautiful Weddings: Three Reasons to Wear a Wedding Gown off the Rack

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“A wedding dress is both an intimate and personal object for a woman—it must reflect the personality and style of the bride”-Carolina Hererra

Planning a wedding is already a cause of much stress to the couple involved—even more so to the bride. But if there is anything that the bride wants on her wedding day, she wishes to look picture perfect as well as beautiful. In fact, this is that one day in her life that she gets to be the most gorgeous woman in the room, so she should make it her while. Unfortunately, being the most stunning woman in a room can be quite difficult to achieve, even if it is your big day. In this regard, many brides would opt to wear custom-made ostentatious wedding gowns or elaborate wedding dresses with intricate details and designs in hopes that all eyes would be on them on their big day. As this momentous day comes only once for most, brides would want to ensure they look not only their best but near perfection. However, while there is absolutely nothing wrong with donning a custom-gown for your wedding day, it is an entirely different thing when it starts to put a strain on your wedding budget.

After all, why spend a lot on a dress that you are only going to be wearing for one day? There are a lot more beautiful and ready-to-wear wedding gowns out there that are just as beautiful sans the exorbitant price tag. Sure, a wedding gown off the rack might lack that personal feel you may have always wanted, but you can easily incorporate that into the other aspects of your wedding and not necessarily your wedding gown. In any case, if you are on the hedge as to whether you should be forking over a fortune just for a wedding gown, you might want to consider buying it off the rack instead. Here are some of the compelling reasons why you should:

1.) A gown off the rack costs much, much less

One of the most compelling reasons to get a wedding gown off the rack is because you will inevitably be paying a much cheaper for it than a custom designed one. Exclusively designed gowns are usually made by designers from top-notch shops and would set you back anywhere from eighty-thousand pesos to a hundred depending on the design and details that you wish to be present on your gown. A ready to wear gown, on the other hand, can easily fit any budget with the price starting at ten-thousand pesos or lower.

2.) You already have a specific wedding gown in mind, or prefer the classic look

If you had already thought of a wedding gown design way before you got engaged, there is no need to have a designer translate it into a dress for you unless the gown you have in mind is incredibly unique. You can simply look for it yourself or ask the designer if he or she already has a similar design (chances are, they do). If you are a stickler for the classics, there is no doubt that you would easily find a gown out there that would suit your taste and preference.

3.) You want to cut costs on your wedding budget

A customized wedding gown will inevitably take a huge chunk out of your wedding budget—so much so that you will eventually have to make a few compromises if you really wish to go designer. Cutting down on the budget of your dress would usually mean you have more money to spend on other aspects for your wedding such as the décor or the reception venue.

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Smart Weddings: Four Hidden Wedding Expenses You Should Not Overlook

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“A low-budget, elegant wedding is within the reach of every couple” -Polly Clements

No matter how hard you try to execute your wedding according to budget, you can never adequately plan for every contingency. In this regard, there may be some expenses that would inevitably crop up–these costs and expenses are usually the ones a couple would overlook. Once the bill arrives, the couple would naturally be taken by surprise at how they accumulated so much simply for their wedding bill.

Do remember that throwing a wedding is expensive and that the costs extend beyond how much your wedding gown or wedding catering costs. Before striking a deal with any of your vendors or signing any contracts, remember to ask what the costs would entail and be meticulous as regards the detail such as overtime, cleanup and delivery. If you have been drawing out a budget plan for your wedding, here are some of the common charges you should never overlook:

1.) Wedding Band Equipment

If you have elected to hire a band to play at your wedding venue, you would not only be paying for the band themselves. The fees would invariably include their time and of course, the minimum equipment needed to ensure optimal sound quality. Of course, if you have chosen a reception area that is rather large, the band members would need to install additional speakers and microphones to project the best sound quality possible. To avoid this, talk to the band or your DJ and give them a layout of how your reception venue looks like. Alternatively, you can have them check it out themselves when they have the time. If they tell you additional equipment would be necessary, have them explain why you would need to be paying for it before signing and agreeing to pay anything else.

2.) Wedding Dress Alterations and Steaming

Unless you have adopted a very strict diet regime, there is a likely chance that you may need to have your wedding dress altered–especially when you had your first gown fitting a long time ago. Unfortunately, alterations and steaming are not included by most designers and wedding boutiques (and they are highly unlikely to do it for you free). Most brides think that wedding dress alterations would only take a jiffy, but depending on how complicated your dress is, it may take anywhere from a couple of hours to days just to have a dress altered. In this regard, be sure to ask how much the store charges for every alteration you may need before purchasing the gown.

3.) Overtime Fees

You must take into consideration that your DJ, wedding photographers, videographers and band are only book for a specific amount of time. If you require their services longer than necessary, they will charge you a little extra (per hour in most cases) after they have reached the time they have indicated in the contract. To avoid this, keep in mind to factor additional time you will spend in getting dressed and taking photos. With this in mind, you would be able to come up with a more realistic time frame to give your wedding vendors.

4.) Cakes and Corkage Fees

If you have used and consumed the cake and liquor provided to you by your wedding venue, you normally would not have to worry about this additional cost. However, if you chose another cake baker or caterer or have brought your own crates of wine to the reception venue, you might be charged corkage fees. Corkage is what goes into the service the staff will render you as they will be the ones to serve your guests all the food and beverages you have brought from outside. Furthermore, they would be the one doing the cleaning for it which means additional work for their staff.

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