Four Ways to be an Unforgettable and Incredible Godparent

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“I am a godmother that is a great thing to be, a godmother. She calls me god for short, that is cute, I taught her that.” –Ellen DeGeneres

Being asked to be a godparent is an honor. In fact, it might just be one of the most pleasant things you will ever feel in the world. In this regard, you can truly say that the parents of your godchild hold you in such high esteem and admiration that they see you as a prospective role model for their son or daughter in the years to come. However, what does it mean to be a godparent, really? Beyond attending the baptismal rites and gracing the baptism with your presence, what is it that you should do? For the average Filipino, being a godparent constitutes as nothing more than being an entity expected to hand out treats and gifts on every significant occasion from birthdays to major milestones in life such as school graduations. However, being a godparent means so much more than just remembering birthdays and handing out Christmas gifts—you actually need to be a presence in your godchild’s life.

Considering that being asked to be a godparent is somewhat of a privilege, it carries with it a certain onus—one which you have the obligation to fulfill. So, what does it take to be a fantastic godparent? What should you do to be an unforgettable one? Take a gander at the list below to find out how:

1.) Be fun

When your godchildren are young, take the opportunity to be in their lives. Take the time to get to know them, what their interests and hobbies are and be the fun godparent. Be the doting and indulgent godparent—not by spoiling them with gifts all the time but by taking them on memorable trips. After all, you would rather be remembered as the fun godparent who took them on their first roller coaster ride than the godparent associated with gift checks and toys. Remember, there is no absolute need to buy your way into your godchild’s heart. What is important is that you spend time to bond with them.

2.) Never forget special occasions

This is a big one. As a godparent, it is your responsibility to take note of your godchildren’s birthday—mark them on your smartphone’s calendars with an alarm if you have to. Furthermore, on their special days and occasions, always remember to be there for them. It is not necessary to bring an expensive gift considering your presence alone would suffice. After all, you would not want to be that detached godparent who only sends greeting cards on special occasions. Take note: Your presence counts so much more than the present you are bringing.

3.) Know your place

While you were selected to be their godparent, this in no way means that you have some leverage on how their parents discipline them. Sure, you can serve as a good influence on them and be a great role model worth emulating. However, it should never extend beyond that. Your godchildren have parents who have their own approach to discipline as well as grandparents to mollycoddle them. Your job is to never take sides and never get entangled in familial conflicts and drama.

4.) Give your godchildren sound advice

There are instances wherein your godchildren may seek your counsel if there are things they do not wish their parents to know. One of these is when they start crushing on a classmate or begin dating. They may ask you how to approach a girl, which university they should attend and the like. In this regard, give them your sound and honest advice. Moreover, do not betray their trust, if they sought your counsel; do not go around blabbering to their parents unless it is a sensitive issue.

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Baptism 101: Four Things to Consider in Choosing Godparents

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“A Godparent is a treasure whose worth you cannot measure except by the love in your heart.” -Unknown Author

One of the biggest milestones in life is having a child of your own. As a parent, it is your duty and responsibility to rear and guide your children while they are growing up. However, this immense task is not an endeavor parents alone should shoulder, it is a responsibility in fact extended to godparents. Selecting godparents for your child is an integral task before a child’s baptism day, in fact, it is of paramount interest to a child’s upbringing. This is because a godparent’s duty is not only limited to gracing your child’s christening day, but they will also be those persons responsible for providing guidance as well as life lessons to your child. From this alone, it can be readily assumed that a godparent’s role in life is significant so choose godparents well. So, before you start choosing the best baptismal packages in Quezon City, be meticulous in choosing godparents as role models for your children with some of the things to consider below:

1.) Know if they want kids or how they feel about children

Having children is not a universal choice every person would make and not every person would want that kind of responsibility. This is not to say, however, that individuals who do not want kids would not make worthy godparents and role models, however, it gives you something to consider. Individuals have varied attitudes when it comes to children, and it may differ significantly from yours. Before selecting a godparent, make sure your views regarding children align as some of your relatives and friends would just agree to avoid hurting your feelings. A pivotal question to ask yourself would be, as someone who does not want children, will they make themselves available for yours?

2.) Know what your expectations from a godparent are

In these modern times, most godparents are seen as benefactors who would give children extraordinary presents during birthdays and other significant occasions. However, this should not always be the case. As a parent, you should know and be clear about what your expectations are. After all, for some parents, being a godparent is a huge responsibility—one that merits an honest one-on-one conversation. Let a potential godparent know what yours are to avoid disappointment later on.

3.) Consider those who live close to you

While relationships can be formed and maintained across the globe thanks to the massive innovations in digital technology, it is not similar to the relationships you do have with persons who live close by. Your child will have a stronger bond with a person who he or she can talk to on a regular basis, or who they can see from time to time. This ensures that the godparent would also be fulfilling his or her duty as a role model. After all, would it not be better if during momentous occasions during your child’s life, their godparents can be present for that as well?

4.) Know their level of commitment

As a parent, you are committed to your child by default. With this in mind, backtrack and contemplate about the expectations and the kind of commitment you want from your child’s godparent. Would you want them to make an effort to spend time with your child? Remember, as said above, being a godparent extends beyond the responsibility of being present during holidays, birthdays and other special occasions. It means the people you have selected would want to become an integral part of your parenting journey. The individuals you have selected should understand that they are not only bystanders in your child’s life but critical members in raising them as well.

 

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