Wedding Gown Fittings: Six Things No One Tells You about Choosing a Wedding Dress

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“After all, there is something about a wedding gown prettier than in any other gown in the world.” –Douglas Jerrold

 

The wedding gown is the most iconic piece of garment a woman will ever wear in her life. Not only would she wear this on her most momentous day, but she would also be wearing it on an event that would have every single eye in the room trained on her. In this regard, it would be understandable why so many women would feel pressured to find the perfect gown.

However, unbeknownst to them, there is quite a myriad of things that occur when you do choose a gown—whether you are still in the process of selecting it or have already decided on one. In any case, here are the things you can expect when you are on a wedding gown or dress hunt:

 

Your childhood dreams are over

As a kid, you have probably envisioned what your wedding dress would look like and have run through it over and over your head ever since you said yes to your partner’s proposal. Unfortunately, unless you have an extremely talented designer who can customize the gown for you, it might be impossible to find in retail stores. Even if you do find it, it does not look the way you wish it had in your head and it is not definitely what you wish to wear while you walk down the aisle.

It takes a lot of tries before you find the one

Much like how you dated around to finally find that one true love of yours who you will be marrying soon, finding the perfect dress is just as elusive. Do not worry though; great things take time and an incredible amount of patience.

Sometimes nothing in the bridal boutique fits you perfectly

It might seem like an alien concept to you, but the truth is nothing will fit you perfectly in some boutique shops. Women do not come in a standard size so what might adequately fit you in other areas might feel a little snug or loose in some parts of the dress. Either everything is too tiny that the zip would not go up all the way or is too massive that it would need to be held back with a lot of pins.

So you might eventually need a seamstress

Even if you bought your wedding gown from a bridal boutique shop, if there are customizations you wish to have incorporated (such as making it fit you a lot better or some intricate beadwork), you will inevitably need a seamstress. There is no need to worry though, they know what they are doing and they can make the gown as close to the one you have in your dreams.

There is nothing such as a timeless gown

Sure, you want to buy a gown that is both classic and timeless. However, bear in mind that everything would look dated after a while, so do not push it. Just find the gown that you like best and go with that. Do not worry about it being a timeless design and the like.

You are barraged with a string of doubts when you finally pick a dress

So, you have finally picked out a wedding gown…YAY YOU! Unfortunately, it does not stop there. Once you have paid the initial deposit, you are going to spend the next few months contemplating whether you should have gotten a different design instead. Quite the indecision, is it not? As the excitement and thrill of finding the perfect down wears down, you would soon begin to realize the impracticality of the situation: You bought an expensive dress which you are going to wear just once. Not to fear though, your daughter in the future could probably use its material for her own dress as well.

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The Worst Wedding Tips Brides Should Steer Clear From

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“A talented wedding planner is a gift you give yourself…and then you wonder how you ever thought you could manage without one.” –Author Unknown

Planning a wedding is in by no means a cakewalk regardless of how simple or how elaborate it would be. There is quite a lot of aspects to consider and just like there how two brides are not the same, the logistics of their weddings are never straightforward nor are they quite same. For this reason, people who have already been engaged and tied the knot will often come to you in droves—giving you pieces of advice (solicited or otherwise) about what you should and should not do for your wedding day. Although they are well-intended, they are not always precise and some of them can be quite impractical. Furthermore, what used to work for them might not exactly work for you when it is your turn to walk down the aisle.

In this regard, it would be important to be a little shrewd and meticulous when it comes to following the innumerable unwarranted advice you will inevitably get. Recognize which ones are helpful and which ones could be detrimental. Remember, from something as major as your wedding gown to something as insignificant as which flowers to use, you have the final say. So, do not let anyone’s ability of persuasion overpower you.

In any case, here are some of the worst advice you should avoid and ignore:

1.) Skimp on catering costs

Some brides who have tied the knot two decades ago would probably be the first to tell you to skimp on the food costs and splurge on the other elements instead. They would tell you that no one really goes to the wedding to eat anyhow so do not go above and beyond when it comes to food packages. However, this might come as a shock to you but some wedding guests go to the wedding precisely for the food. After all, in these days, nothing is considered better than wedding food. Furthermore, it is one of the things that make your wedding memorable and really, you do not want to be remembered as the cheap bride who let her guests go hungry just so she can have stellar wedding decorations.

2.) Going impromptu for your wedding vows

Your wedding vows should have meaning and should originate from the heart. Spend a good time contemplating about what you should say and write it down—even if you are a good speaker. Remember, when we are all choked up and overwhelmed by emotion, we tend to forget what we are about to say—and that is a scenario you would not want at your wedding.

3.) Wait for your wedding dress to go on sale

Sure, you might be constrained to a budget and it might be nice to get your dream wedding gown at a fraction of its original price. However, you should also consider that you are not the only bride looking around for a gown and there is a likely chance that there is another bride whose eyes are on the same dress you have been waiting to go on sale. Do not wait for flash sales and buy it as is or risk having it being sold to another or spend more on expensive alterations should you need it in a rush.

4.) DIY as much as you can

Personal aspects and elements make a wedding more charming and endearing. However, there is also such a thing as overdoing the DIY. Yes, you might be saving a lot more cash on wedding decors, favors, and all other whatnots but you are also spending a lot more time–time that could have been spent doing other things that would contribute to your wedding. Moreover, you may even end up spending more than you initially thought on craft materials which would be counterintuitive if you are working on a budget.

 

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Four Reasons to Hire A Wedding Planner

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“Weddings are not about spending the least amount of money or the most amount of money; they are about spending good money on the elements that are most important to you and your partner.” -Kristi Richardson

 

Planning a wedding is no easy feat. There are a lot of aspects and elements to consider that a bride would feel by the overall logistics that are involved in simply pulling off a grand event. After all, this would be one of the momentous and biggest events in a woman’s life; it is only right that she be extra meticulous when it comes to hashing out and planning the details. For this reason, many brides would elect to avail of the services of a wedding planner, and you might not just know it, but it could potentially be your best investment when it comes to your wedding day. Without a doubt, careful planning and execution are two essential aspects that can make or break a wedding—an expertise of many wedding planners. So, if you wish to have a wedding to remember for years to come, you might want to hire a wedding planner.

Other than ensuring that everything goes seamlessly on your wedding day and assisting you with the planning, there is a myriad of reasons why hiring a wedding planner would be advantageous. Here are four reasons why:

1.) You deserve everything to be perfect on your wedding day

Most brides have envisioned what their ideal wedding would be like at a very young age. In their mind, they have already mapped out how their big day would look and feel like. Unfortunately, translating your perfect wedding is not as simple as you wish it to be—especially if you are undertaking the planning alone. This is where your wedding planner would be helpful. Planning a wedding takes a lot of hard work and time to put together perfectly. Your wedding planner has the necessary expertise and experience to pull it off as they have organized the same event over and over that it has become somewhat of their specialty. As a consequence, with their constant practice comes perfection.

2.) It helps you stick to a budget

One of the most integral aspects of planning a wedding is your budget. A wedding no matter how big or small will inevitably cost you and if you bungle your budget and receive the bills, you might find out you just spent more than you initially bargained for. A wedding planner doubles as a financial adviser by realistically telling you what you can do with the budget you have. More often than not, they offer you affordable alternatives or would ask you to compromise to ensure that each aspect of your wedding is top notch.

3.) Wedding planning should be enjoyable, not stressful

Regardless of how much planning goes into pulling off a wedding, it should be an enjoyable process. Furthermore, while you are planning a wedding, you should never neglect to spend special time with your special man and groom-to-be. After all, days leading up to your wedding should be filled with bliss and anticipation, not anxiety and stress. Hiring an excellent wedding planner will help you with that, and they have all the necessary skills to deal with everything on your behalf.

4.) You have a day job

Having a 9-5 job and hashing out the nitty gritty details of what you want to happen in your wedding just would not mix. Planning a wedding takes a lot of commitment and effort, and if you have a day job, it might not be as easy as it would be had you just hired a wedding planner. Your wedding planner would function as your personal assistant whose job is to look for potential vendors for you and basically do all the running around for your wedding.

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What to Ask Your Wedding Planner

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“A good wedding planner will invariably save the bride money. Everything is negotiable in this business.” -Richard Markel

Planning a wedding can be one of the most exciting things you can do in your life. Unfortunately, if you are the bride, it can potentially be one of the most stressful as well. To alleviate your stress levels and help you have a better execution of plans during your wedding day, it is highly recommended that you employ the services of a wedding planner. These planners are already well-experienced in your field and have the necessary expertise to deliver as you expect them to. More often than not, the success or failure of your wedding event hinges on how well your wedding planner can execute your plans and put them into action. With this in mind, it is pivotal that you have a constant correspondence with them and maintain this professional relationship until your wedding day.

To ensure that your wedding planner can properly deliver, here are some things you should ask and discuss with them:

1.) How do you keep in touch with clients?

Wedding planning inevitably entails making a lot of decisions, and there are some of these you might want to gloss over with your wedding planner. As a result, you can expect to be in regular communication with them. Seeing as regular correspondence is paramount to the fruition of your wedding plans, it is essential that you ask prospective candidates as to how they will be communicating with you months, weeks and days leading up to the meeting. Make sure that the method they prefer is one that sits well with you. Would you like to do it over the phone? Or would you like to have regular sit-down meetings with them?

2.) What services do you offer?

In order to have an objective comparison among your prospective candidates, it is best if you ask what services their wedding planning entails. Sometimes, the venue you choose already comes with a coordinator but they would not probably meet your expectations or would provide an extensive list of services. Select someone who can cover the rest of the details of your wedding planning and someone who can meet all of your planning needs and expectations.

3.) What type of experience do you have?

Seeing as your wedding day will be one of the most momentous events you will ever have in your life, it would be best if you select someone who has had a lot of previous experiences. Know when the planner was in business and for how long and find out whether he or she is doing this freelance or is employed by a large company. Additionally, it would not hurt to have them describe some of the best weddings they have previously planned and coordinated—especially if the wedding is similar to yours in terms of size, budget, location or theme.

4.) Who are your preferred vendors?

You are going to need a lot of vendors for your wedding if you want it to resemble anything like you have dreamed it to be. From the florist to the caterer, your wedding planner might already have a list of potential vendors you can hire. More often than not, these are vendors she or he has already worked with before and can be trusted to pull everything off during your wedding day. However, do not just stop there, leaf through their portfolios and compare before you select the vendors you do want to service your wedding.

5.) Can you help us stay on budget?

Your budget is paramount to your wedding plans, so it is only right that you ask your planner whether or not they can help you stick to yours. A good planner would be able to secure enough vendor discounts to offset his or her services. Have a talk with your planners about your budget and see what you both can work with. Furthermore, steer clear from planners who are not entirely committed to your budget.

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Five Things to Keep in Mind When Writing A Wedding Vow

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“You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” -Sam Keen

 

There are a lot of things to consider for a wedding: the venue for one, the catering, the menu, the wedding package in the Philippines you selected, the wedding dress—those among a myriad of other stuff you have to consider. You will be surprised however that what is mentioned in the preceding sentence is just a fraction of the entirety of your entire wedding day. With all this considered, it is almost a guarantee that there would be details you would overlook or worse, forget. Especially one that some might consider negligible like your wedding vows. Without a doubt, saying your wedding vows to your partner would take little to no time at all, but do take note that to them, this might be the best part of your wedding day.

In fact, what you might say in your wedding vows might contain the reasons why you both are getting married in the first place! So, with that in consideration, planning and writing out your wedding vows should be given as much importance as planning your wedding is. After all, you are only going through this wedding day once, and you might never get another appropriate moment to utter those promises to your partner, so be meticulous about your speech and make it with deliberate attention to how you feel for your partner.

Otherwise here are some things you should consider when writing your vows:

1.) Decide if you want to write it together

You wedding vow does not have to be a surprise spiel your spouse gets to hear only on the wedding day. However, if you wish it to be, there is also no harm in that—either way, you decide is the right way. These are your vows after all. However, even if you do decide to write it together, add a little element of surprise in your speech so that you are not really giving everything away before your big day. Consider the type of couple you and your partner are—if you like oversharing or are a bit conservative so that you will both be on the same page in writing your vows.

2.) Pick a structure you can both use as a jumping point

You and your partner can be vowing more or less similar things, and this is not necessarily a bad thing to consider. However, to have a semblance of clarity and organization in your overall speech. Come up with a structure or a phrase that you both use as a jumping point such as saying, “I promise” before your vows or “I vow”. Alternatively, you can share anecdotes about your relationship with your partner and after which, you can say your vows. Whichever way works fine.

3.) Decide on a realistic word-count maximum

While proclaiming your love to your partner without any constraints or limitations of any kind might seem like an excellent idea, you do not want your guests to doze off. They might be happy to witness your love and your union, but they are not exactly receptive to sitting through a thirty-minute vow. Set limitations such as putting a cap on your word count. Try to stay within that limit and avoid veering away from the topic.

4.) Include details

Make sure that your spiel would not sound like a generic piece of content someone might mistake for something you got off the Internet. Your speech has to be inspired, and it has to be personal. Pulling an inspired and personal speech compels you to include some details that might have symbolized your relationship. What made you fall for your partner? What are the things you do that they appreciate? From there, craft a speech that is suitably appropriate for you and your partner.

5.) Your vows are for you and your partner

Your vows do not necessarily have to sound like vows. At the end of the day, it is your wedding, and it should be definitive of how you and your partner are as a couple. If you wish to read a sonnet, read out and essay, sing or rap your vows, you can do so provided that this is the kind of couple you and your partner are. Your vows should sound like you—especially since you are making promises to your spouse.

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